This is a guy who hated his small frame and femininity. I don't know his previous name, but it has been Amanda Lapore, for years. "She" was born a "male," and started taking hormone treatment at or before age 15. "She " is probably in her 40's . The two pictures are several years apart, with the one on the right being the most recent.
The transgender reality is with us, today, as ridiculous as that might have sounded 40 years ago. The fact that the idiots at the American Psychiatric Association have defined the pursuit of surgical options as "normal," is one of the most unprofessional decisions of all time. And that profession has done great disservice to the people involved. Instead of counseling as to how to live with the concerns common to many transgender folks, the APA has erred on the side of PC.
The truth concerning "transgender" as a way of life
I have some thoughts on this, speaking as a one time family counselor.
First, in the end, most of these folks never get past the reality of the transition, itself. They once were "this," now they are "that." This goes to a certain continuing internal conflict that exist to varying degrees with most Transgendered. For some, this conflict can be overwhelming.
Drug addiction and suicide are more prevalent in this group than in other demographics, noticeably more. Happiness and acceptance are the goals of the Transgendered. An effeminate young man will [definitely] be made fun of and bullied, while in school, and there are no easy solutions to this social problem. We must come to admit the fact that the social and physiological problems these people have to deal with, are real.
But, surgery is not a solution that should be pursued, in my opinion (but, who am I). Look, the young man who is Amanda Lapora, will have to surrender "her" boob job, in time. Amanda has already had 3 such surgeries. The surgeries on Lapora's face and lips are taking their toll, as well. 20 such operations will have a negative effect on anyone, even on a woman who wants to be a woman.
Worse, yet, "she" will age as a man ages. Think about that, for a moment. Really old guys make for really ugly women. At least, that is my theory. A man's ear lobs continue to grow as does his nose. Don't forget: male pattern baldness. Men do not have "woman" diseases. Mesothelioma and pancreatic cancers affect many more men than women, as does lung cancer. Prostate cancer is an exclusive male disease. If the transgendered marry, it is almost never to a heterosexual partner. Their circle of friends is limited, if that was not the case before, and, they are almost totally rejected by traditional faith based groups.
Advice
Look, if the goal is happiness, figure out how to deal with nature's reality, but don't make changes, physically, that cannot be reversed easily. MSNBC ran a series of documentaries that had, as their theme, the changing circumstances for one who is "post op." I do not know how representative the documentaries were, but the subjects of these films were very disappointed in their decisions of years gone by. Very disappointed. It was much more a problem for those who had attempted to change from male to female, byw.
Point of post: someone needs to talk about this. The subject of this post began the path of no return when he was 15 years of age. Two months ago, there was a story of a young boy, nine years old, who was making the "transition."
Chaz Bono, a female making the "change" to a male, brought national attention to this curious solution, but without a critical review being allowed. The problem is not going away. Reasonable people, informed and gracious pastors, and sensible mental health providers, not kissing up to the accepted liberal idiocy, need to get involved with the statement of real solutions.
Incidentally, "You're a man, Grow up and act like one" is not the solution apart from other considerations. On the other hand, understand that "accepting who you are" is the starting point in dealing with these problematic issues.
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